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  • Can I Refuse the Glucose Test When Pregnant? A Scientific Look at Glucose Test Alternatives

    December 5, 2023

    Can you refuse the glucose test when pregnant? Sure. But do we recommend it? Definitely not. If your concerns relate to Glucola–the standard glucose test drink–there are some alternatives, and we’ll walk you through the pros and cons of them. But many of the glucose test alternatives touted by wellness influencers–like 100% fruit juice and […]

  • Perineal Massage Step-By-Step Guide (+ Best Oil & Tools)

    November 28, 2023

    Perineal massage can be done easily (in just 5 minutes per day) during the weeks leading up to birth. In this guide, we’ll tell you how to do it step by step, what positions are most comfortable, which oils to use (and why!), and which tools are best. Perineal Massage Positions: How to Reach There […]

  • How to Track Ovulation: Determining the Best Method for Your Body & Budget

    November 9, 2023

    Want to boost your conception odds? Mastering ovulation tracking is a powerful step toward pregnancy and a deeper understanding of your reproductive health because it helps you to understand your fertile days each month.