There are many things over the years that I thought I would be labeled as an “expert” in, whether it was in my career, my personal life, or just general pop culture.
The best messages I got in those first few weeks and months were ones that said or implied that they were there, but did not need me to respond or do anything.
You may find some intellectual comfort in statements like “at least you can get pregnant” or “at least you had a few days with her,” but loss parents do not.