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20 Miscarriage Quotes that Brought Me Comfort

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The experience of pregnancy loss can be so heartbreaking, and the grief is hard to navigate because it’s so intangible. You may have a positive pregnancy test or ultrasound photos to remind you of the life that lived inside you.

But there are no tangible objects–usually no gravesite to visit, no clothes that smell like the person you’ve lost–nothing you can quite grasp onto as an outlet for your grief. 

This is why so many people turn to the written word during their struggles. 

We can help ourselves heal through miscarriage memorials like lighting a candle during the Wave of Light. We can join miscarriage support groups, gather our community for comfort, work out our feelings in therapy or through a tool like a guided journal for miscarriage.

We can read all the miscarriage books, and we’ll likely find comfort in doing whichever of these things feels right to us. 

But when we need comfort in a moment, just for a minute, as will often happen during grief, there is little that can support us better in that instant and immediate need than a poignant miscarriage quote.

These are some of the ones that got me through the darkest days of my recurrent miscarriage journey. 

Where to Find Miscarriage Quotes

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In addition to the many quotes listed in this article, there are lots of great places to find miscarriage quotes to help you heal.

You can find healing quotes in books about miscarriage, scroll through Instagram content with #miscarriagequotes, or listen to your favorite cathartic songs about loss.

For me, the most healing miscarriage song was Pink’s “Beam Me Up.” In this gorgeous (but tear jerking) ode to her lost baby, she begs to be able to see her child just for a minute, to hold its face.

I used to listen to this song while running. I would wait until I was in a private place on my jog, then put this song on spotify, sob, release my sadness through my legs, and scream along with the words “I’m tired of being a fighter.” 

I hope you can find similar catharsis and healing through these miscarriage quotes. 

Miscarriage Quotes for Parents: What You Want to Say to Your Baby

1. “You never arrived in my arms, but you will never leave my heart.” — Zoe Clark-Coates

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2. “How very softly you tiptoed into our world, almost silently, only a moment you stayed. But what an imprint your footsteps have left upon our hearts.” — Dorothy Ferguson

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3. “Your wings were ready, but my heart was not.”

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4. “I held you every second of your life.” — Stephanie Paige Cole

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5. “I carry you in my heart.” 

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Miscarriage Quotes to Give You Comfort

1. “It hurts because it matters.” — John Green

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2. “A mother is never defined by the number of children you can see, but by the love that she holds in her heart.” —Franchesca Cox

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3. “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or touched. They must be felt within the heart.” —Helen Keller

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4. “Babies lost in the womb were never touched by fear. They were never cold, never hungry, never alone, and importantly always knew love.” —Zoe Clark-Coates

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5. “A miscarriage is a natural and common event. All told, probably more women have lost a child from this world than haven’t. Most don’t mention it. But ask her sometime: how old would your child be now? And she’ll know.” —Barbara Kingsolver, Animal Dreams

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6. “Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few.” —Meghan Markle

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7. “Life isn’t always about beating the waves. Sometimes, it’s about learning to breathe underwater.” —L.E. Bowman

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8. “A miscarriage is not a failure, because a failure implies that it’s something you can ‘control.’ Miscarriages are beyond our control.” —Dr. Simone Whitmore

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9. “Because someone we love is in heaven, there’s a little bit of heaven in our home.” —Unknown

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Sympathy Quotes for Miscarriage to Help Navigate Grief

1. “There is no right way to grieve; there is only your way to grieve and that is different for everyone.” — Nathalie Himmelrich

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2. “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” — Maya Angelou

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3. “There is a unique pain that comes from preparing a place in your heart for a child that never comes.” —David Platt

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4. “Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” —Vicki Harrison

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5. “‘There is no heartbeat.’ 4 words. 4 words to end the life I had. 4 words to change who I was. It will never be the same again. I will never be the same again.” —Kerin Lee

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6. “There is no time limit to healing. You take as much time as you need.” —S.L. Gray

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What miscarriage quotes have helped you heal?

When I first told my mom the title of this blog, she looked at me incredulously and said, “Why undefining? Why not redefining?”

“Because motherhood is a role that’s been defined for far too many centuries,” I say. “And often not even by mothers themselves. It’s been prescribed and defined and changed and redefined so much that I don’t understand how anyone can feel authentic in their experience of it anymore. Not to co-opt another movement that’s happening right now, but time’s up. It’s time to learn to do this authentically, not according to prescription. For years, I’ve studied the history and theory of how motherhood has been defined, prescribed, turned into an institution with a set of rules. And I’m sick of it. It’s time to put that knowledge into action.”

“It’s perfect,” she replied.

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