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I earned a PhD in English Literature, where I wrote my doctoral dissertation on Victorian motherhood, and I’m endlessly fascinated by the societal (and often unfair) expectations of a “good” mother. As I progressed through life and experienced pregnancy loss and birth, I realized that the world needed a forum where we could learn from each other, shake off external (and internal) expectations, and create our own personal definitions of motherhood. Learn more about my journey here.

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