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I earned a PhD in English Literature, where I wrote my doctoral dissertation on Victorian motherhood, and I’m endlessly fascinated by the societal (and often unfair) expectations of a “good” mother. As I progressed through life and experienced pregnancy loss and birth, I realized that the world needed a forum where we could learn from each other, shake off external (and internal) expectations, and create our own personal definitions of motherhood. Learn more about my journey here.

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When I was recovering from having a baby, there were so many things I was unprepared for. One of the worst of them: postpartum night sweats. The hormonal fluctuations kept me so hot, and I quickly discovered that of all the postpartum pajamas I’d purchased, the most important were nursing nighties.  Don’t get me wrong. Nursing pajamas of all types

two women hugging while one cries and holds a tissue in her hand

Early Signs of Miscarriage: When to Worry and When to Stay Calm

When I experienced my first miscarriage, a blighted ovum, I had no idea you could lose a pregnancy without any symptoms whatsoever (a situation called a “missed miscarriage.”) I was nauseous, had food aversions, experienced cravings, had no cramping or bleeding, yet still, and ultrasound confirmed that I had lost a very wanted pregnancy. I was devastated.  But after that

2 month shots laying on mom

What to Expect After 2 Month Shots Rock your Baby’s World

The simplest of tasks can require a monumental effort when you’re caring for a newborn and recovering postpartum. As a new mom, a trip to the pediatrician’s office can seem like a full day event when you’ve never changed a diaper in a public bathroom; you’re not experienced using the car seat or stroller; and you don’t know how your

Nursing nighties

Our Favorite Nursing Nighties

When I was recovering from having a baby, there were so many things I was unprepared for. One of the worst of them: postpartum night sweats. The hormonal fluctuations kept me so hot, and I quickly discovered that of all the postpartum pajamas I’d purchased, the most important were nursing nighties.  Don’t get me wrong. Nursing pajamas of all types

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