Hi! I’m Katy, your best new mom friend who loves research more than Oprah loves giveaways.
In my PhD research, I dove deep into the societal expectations of motherhood and how they’ve shaped our views of what it means to be a “good” mother. As I progressed through life and experienced pregnancy loss and birth, I realized that the world needed a forum where we could learn from each other, shake off external (and internal) expectations, and create our own personal definitions of motherhood.

That’s why I created Undefining Motherhood, a community that welcomes all mothers – with all their ups, downs, heartbreaks, and joys – to join a conversation that goes beyond the traditional definition of motherhood.

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  • Becoming a Medical Mama

    The first couple years of my daughter’s life, she went to daycare. I taught high school social studies, and my husband worked as an architect. Our daughter had the normal daycare illnesses (a new virus every other week it seemed), but other than that our life was fairly “normal.”  But if I’ve learned anything, it’s […]

  • The Best Kid’s Chapter Books About Diversity

    As parents, we want our children to interact with generosity and grace when they see something out of their ordinary. When one of their classmates dresses differently or uses a mobility aid to get around. When a friend celebrates different holidays or brings a dish from a different culture to a class picnic. That’s why chapter […]

  • Feminist Books for Boys: Why ALL Kids Should Read Feminist Books!

    Empowering books for girls aren’t just for girls, y’all! It’s essential that we read books about strong women to boys, too! That’s why we’ve compiled this list of feminist books for boys, made up of board books and picture books for young readers. Of course, feminist themes aren’t always explicit in books like these (although […]

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    What is a Pregnancy Planner? A pregnancy planner is a book that helps you stay organized as you prepare for baby. It has checklists, helpful information, pro tips from experienced moms–everything you didn’t know you needed to know to prepare for baby, all in one easy-to-use place! A pregnancy planner can be an amazing tool […]

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    Top Push Gift Ideas for a New Mom from Husband

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    Gifting a push present that has meaning and purpose adds an extra layer of joy to an exciting (and a little bit scary if we’re being honest!) transition. We’ve scoured the internet; surveyed the moms in our community; and tested products to find the best, highest quality options to give the new mama in your […]

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    Postpartum Loungewear and Pajamas for New Mamas

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    Postpartum recovery can be really uncomfortable. Your body will be SORE. One way to remain as comfortable as possible is with postpartum pajamas. Learn about our favorites!

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    The 7 BEST Postpartum Diapers

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    When you’re trying to figure out what to wear after giving birth in a hospital, or you’re trying to pack your hospital bag for mom, postpartum diapers are probably the last thing on your mind. After all, who wants to celebrate the birth of their child while rocking an adult diaper? No matter how unstylish […]

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    14 Baby Loss Gifts to Support Grieving Parents

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    I remember sitting in a dark Broadway theatre, excited to see Hamilton for the first time. The music was upbeat, the actors were phenomenal, and I was enthralled. And then it happened. The words started pouring out much like the tears streaming down my cheeks, and I found myself unable to breathe, heaving sobs, fully […]

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    14 Best Pajamas for Babies & Toddlers

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    I’m gonna be real here: one of my favorite things in the whole world is a freshly bathed baby slathered in calming lavender baby lotion and stuffed into a pair of freshly laundered PJs. Cue the Sound of Music, “These are a few of my favorite things” lyrics. Is there anything better? Nope, which is […]