Losing Yourself When You Lose a Child

This article is the third installment of a series by Michelle Valiukenas. This is one loss mom’s journey of finding her way after losing her daughter, Colette. You can find part one of Michelle’s story here, and part two here.  When I was a teenager, my great uncle died after a long illness, and my […]

Personal Missed Miscarriage Stories From Women Who Have Been There

When people think about miscarriage (if they take the time to think about it at all), most imagine bleeding. But did you know it’s possible to lose a pregnancy and not know it because your body doesn’t recognize the loss? Missed miscarriage stories are so important for loss moms going through the heartbreaking experience of […]

Five Tips for Getting Through Grief During the Holidays

Grieving during the holidays is an especially gut-wrenching experience. It often leaves us feeling lonely in ways we never imagined, wondering how the rest of the world can celebrate while ours feels shattered. Whether you’re grieving the death of a loved one, work struggles, health crises, or anything else, parts of the holidays can be […]

How to Prevent a Miscarriage (Debunking the Myths!)

When our editor saw that we were publishing an article about preventing miscarriage, she was understandably confused. After all, I spend more waking hours than I can imagine counting reminding women that their losses were not their fault. Nothing they could’ve done, I insist, could have prevented a miscarriage. So why would I—someone who has […]

National Rainbow Baby Day 2023: Celebrating the Rainbow After Your Storm

Pregnancy after miscarriage is something unparalleled in both its joy and its anxiety. Many rainbow baby parents celebrate the joy of a successful pregnancy after a previous loss, seeing their baby as a bright spot after the storm. Hence the term rainbow baby, which refers to a child born after a miscarriage or stillbirth. In […]

Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage: When Is The Right Time for You?

“I don’t hear a heartbeat. I’m sorry, guys.” These were the words my OBGYN said at our first 8-week pregnancy appointment. It was the first ultrasound; the first time we’d seen our baby—it was there on the screen, but there was no heartbeat. And just like that, she put the ultrasound wand away, and our […]

What I Wish I’d Known When Experiencing a Missed Miscarriage

When I lost my first pregnancy, a blighted ovum, I was blindsided by the news. I knew little about pregnancy loss at the time, but my understanding was that losing a pregnancy meant I would experience heavy bleeding and cramping. I never knew that I could feel perfectly normal walking into a doctor’s office, only […]

“The Unimaginable”: Navigating the Loss of a Child

I’m a huge Hamilton junkie. In fact, I’ve seen it live four times. So when my husband and I went on the first official day of parental leave, we spent the day watching the play we love so much on Disney+ and awaiting the call that our gestational carrier had gone into labor with our […]

How to Cope with Miscarrying Twins

I can remember the exact moment I found out I was pregnant. A few days prior, I went to the doctor because I had this unusual pain in my stomach. I remember the doctor asking me, “Do you think you could be pregnant?” And my response was, “Eh, I doubt it.” I never thought that […]

Looking for Signs After the Loss of a Child

My experience with the loss of a child starts every morning when there’s this moment, a brief fleeting moment, when you first wake up, before you are actually awake, where you don’t immediately focus on your child who died. It’s this brief second where you can maybe forget that your child died, that you are […]