Miscarriage gifts don’t take away the pain of pregnancy loss. But having been through 4 losses myself and worked with thousands of women experiencing loss, I can confidently say that there’s something especially helpful about having loved ones take the time to create a care package or send gifts for miscarriage.
What most people don’t understand about pregnancy loss is how incredibly isolating it feels. We all hear the statistics that 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in loss, but with so few people speaking openly about it, most families who experiences miscarriage or pregnancy loss admit to feeling alone.
When someone takes the time to create a miscarriage care package, or to send a loving gift for miscarriage, loss parents feel the presence of their village Suddenly, even in the depths of grief, loss parents aren’t so alone.
Gifts are one of many ways of helping a friend through a miscarriage. Texts and calls were great, and I appreciated them tremendously. But I felt so loved when I received something physical, no matter how small. This is a case where it truly was the thought that counted.
The problem is, most people have no idea where to begin. No worries; I’ve got you covered. Based on my experience as a recurrent miscarriage mom, as well as input I’ve gotten from thousands of women who I’ve supported through pregnancy loss, these are our very favorite gifts for miscarriage.
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What to Do For Someone Who Has a Miscarriage
This is the most common question I’m asked when people reach out to me because a loved one is experiencing pregnancy loss: “What do I do for someone who has a miscarriage?”
Honestly, just do something. Check in via text message, send dinner to the door, buy a small gift. Simply acknowledging their loss and validation their grief will go far, as loss families often wonder if they deserve to feel such immense sadness.
If someone has opened up enough to tell you they’re experiencing a miscarriage, just do something.
The fact that you’re doing anything at all, no matter how big or small, shows that you recognize their grief as valid they aren’t alone.
Whether you print out some beautiful miscarriage quotes to put inside a card or purchase a gift, your actions will be worth so much to the grieving mama you love. What helps people heal most is the ability to work through their grief and a sense of community.
These journals and books will help with that, and the best part is, they’re all made by loss moms for loss moms.
Supportive Miscarriage Gift Ideas
(1) Miscarriage Support Journal
I created this guided journal out of my extensive time in therapy dealing with recurrent pregnancy loss. It includes many of the tools I used to work through my grief and overcome the guilt I so often felt.
This healing miscarriage gift provides 100 pages of healing that help women experiencing pregnancy loss feel their emotions and move forward in their grief.
Not a typical journal, Mourning Retreat: A Journal for the Sisterhood of Pregnancy Loss goes well beyond typical journal prompts. It includes those pages, but also includes actionable exercises to help a new mom move forward–when, and only when, she personally feels ready.
2. I Had a Miscarriage by Dr. Jessica Zucker
This stunning memoir by psychologist Jessica Zucker recounts her experience with her own miscarriage at 16 weeks pregnant. But it goes far beyond being simply a memoir, as the pages bring understanding and healing to women who’ve ready it across the globe.
Written by both a loss mom and a psychologist with a specialty in reproductive health and loss, the ideas in this book are presented in a way that empower many loss moms, helping them see themselves in Dr. Zucker’s story while they come to terms with their ever changed bodies and experiences.
3. The Miscarriage Map by Dr. Sunita Osborn
How do we move forward after the experience of losing a child who’s entire life we’d dreamed of? How do we overcome the trauma of loss? These are the types of questions grappled with in this incredibly honest book by psychologist, Dr. Sunita Osborn.
Between her clinical and personal experiences with pregnancy loss, Dr. Osborn has many tales to tell that introduce readers to the unflinchingly honest questions we all grapple with after miscarriage.
Jewelry as a Gift for Someone Who Miscarried
I love jewelry as a gift for miscarriage because it can symbolize many different aspects of pregnancy and loss.
If you’re buying jewelry as a miscarriage gift, think small, simple, and thoughtful.
My favorite pieces of jewelry for a miscarriage gift are made by loss moms for loss moms–an extra special touch that again reminds grieving mothers that they are not alone.
Some families love to buy birthstone jewelry to honor their lost little ones, but unless you’re purchasing for your partner, sibling, child–someone very close to you, then I’d leave such a personal purchase to the grieving parents.
Still, there are tons of lovely, thoughtful, simple options. Here are our favorites.
1. Earrings from Hope Again Collective
By a loss mom, for loss moms!
All jewelry from this lovely little shop is designed specifically with loss mamas in mind. Hope Again Collective began as a creative outlet for a loss mom to manage her anxiety during pregnancy after loss, and it’s grown into a company that supports loss mamas in so many ways.
Each earring design is created to honor the story of a warrior mom who has endured the trauma of pregnancy loss and baby loss.
2. Halo Remembrance Necklace with Keepsake Box
Perfect for any loss mom, this lovely remembrance necklace was created by a pediatric nurse and mom to honor babies who died too soon. The necklace is lovely, with both an eternity ring and a heart, symbolizing emotions toward her baby that mama definitely feels.
It comes with the added bonus of a beautiful linen keepsake box where grieving parents can store all the tiny memories they were holding on to.
3. Angel Wing Necklace
Babies who die in the womb are often lovingly referred to as “angel babies,” a soft recognition for their parents that their little one gained angel’s wings. Parents with certain spiritual beliefs trust that their babies are watching over them, and potentially their fertility and/or future children.
If you believe the loss parents you love resonate with the idea of an angel baby, what better way to help mama feel connected to her child than through a beautiful angel-wing necklace?
4. “Too Beautiful for Earth” Bracelet
This lovely bracelet is made to avoid tarnish, an especially amazing feature in a gift for miscarriage. While many gifts, like flowers, are lovely (and we’ll recommend some later), many parents do feel feel saddened, or even triggered, when their flowers begin to die. The same can happen if their jewelry begins to tarnish.
But this industrial-grade bracelet resists that exact problem, while also conveying a lovely message to mama about her precious baby.
5. Bodily Remembrance Bracelet
This handcrafted bracelet is available in both small and large, and its casual design is great for comfort and people who aren’t big jewelry wearers.
The olive branch, featured on the pendant, is a symbol of resilience and strength, providing meaningful comfort to grieving parents.
Many people want to show they care by creating a full miscarriage care package. This is an incredibly thoughtful gesture, so if you’re up to making a full miscarriage gift basket, then by all means, please do!
Miscarriage Care Package Ideas that Show You Care
The upside to a miscarriage care package is that it shows how seriously you’re taking the loss.
The downside is that it takes a bit of work to assemble a group of items.
If you want to buy a pre-made care package, our favorites come from Bodily, who offers specific care packages for both pregnancy loss and stillbirth.
To create your own gift basket, consider items like:
1. Miscarriage support journal
We’ve already mentioned this, yes, but we think it would make a fantastic addition to a miscarriage care package. This guided journal is a wonderful miscarriage gift to help mama work her way through her grief.
2. Loss Lovey
By a loss mom, for loss moms!
These precious loveys are made by loss mom Candace for other loss moms. These are precious comfort items for moms to feel closer to the littles ones they’ve lost. Candace will sew one of her signature star tags onto each lovey, with each star representing a lost baby.
We love the personal touch of this gift, and that it gives a grieving parent something to hold. If a family loses more pregnancies in the future, they can mail it back for Candace to add stars.
3. Fuzzy socks
We love fuzzy socks to help mama stay warm and cozy while she likely grieves on the couch.
4. Lavender body butter
Spa products that help mom feel pampered will certainly help her feel loved. We especially love these in calming scents like lavender.
5. Calming bath salts
Bath products are a great choice for helping pamper mamas experiencing loss, but who do not require surgery.
When creating a miscarriage gift package, please know that women who have a dilation & curettage (D&C) are usually put on bath restrictions for 6 weeks. You might want to gently check with the recipient to see if she’s allowed to use bath products.
6. Body scrub
We love body scrubs to give grieving parents a spa-like experience at home; if it includes soothing scents or oils, it’s even better.
7. Essential oils
Many people diffuse essential oils in water to help calm their nerves. Especially calming scents include lavender, jasmine, chamomile, and rose oil.
8. Candle
Candles aren’t just nice gifts; they also make wonderful memorials, as parents can light a candle to honor their lost child, or to feel like they’re sending a message up to them. A candle that represents loss or hope is an especially nice touch.
9. Seeds of hope (plantable Forget-Me-Not seeds)
Earth Mama Organics created this seed package specifically for people experiencing loss families, with a special note on the back that says,
“I am planting these seeds in remembrance of you. As I tuck them into the soil, I am planting my hope for the future while I bury my dreams of holding you in my arms…”
Earth Mama organics
10. Miscarriage book
This list of books about miscarriage gives you different choices depending on the mom you love’s beliefs and grieving style, each of which will help her cope.
11. Candy or a favorite snack
I’m partial to edible cookie dough. Having something to snack on (especially your favorite snack) can be comforting because your brain releases serotonin when you stress eat, the same chemical released by antidepressants. This can make you happier–even if only for that moment.
12. Heating pad
Microwavable heating pads are the easiest option because they’re so portable.
Flowers as a Miscarriage Gift
Flowers are obviously a quick and easy gift for miscarriage. If you want to do something simpler than creating a miscarriage care package, flowers are a good bet.
People aren’t sure of protocol, so questions I get a lot are things like, “Should you send flowers for a miscarriage?” and “What color is the miscarriage flower?”
I’ll answer in order.
Send flowers for a miscarriage if you want to. Again, what’s important isn’t so much what you do, but that you do something.
And no, there is not actually a miscarriage flower. And if there’s a color, I’ve never heard of it. Still, this is a common question.
To pick the best flowers, keep the following ideas in mind.
- Judge based on the person. You know them, and you know what they like. I love the color purple, so I wasn’t surprised when I received purple flowers, and it felt like a special, personal touch.
- White flowers tend to symbolize innocence, so I think they’re a great choice for miscarriage flowers.
And if you want to choose something that your friend could pot in their own home, potted plants are a great idea! Even more enduring would be a small tree or rose bush that they could plant in their yard.
Other Miscarriage Gift Ideas
Of course, there are tons of other things you can send as gifts for miscarriage.
(1) Miscarriage Art
I know many women who have received artwork, included hand-drawn artwork. This is so special because it’s so personal. The three hearts my friend Tessa sent after my third loss will likely live on my dresser forever.
Another great gift is anything small and pretty involving angels. Many parents of loss refer to their lost children as “angel babies,” and they regularly see angels as representing their children.
(2) Angels
I keep 4 wooden angels on my bookshelf to represent the 4 children we lost.
Interested in buying an angel gift? I love this simple remembrance angel by Willow Tree.
A gift to express sympathy, comfort, remembrance and healing. Willow Tree angels resona…
If you’re buying for someone who has experienced multiple losses, we love these angels from Lotty Lollipop.
(3) Gift Cards for Meals
And finally, a gift card for dinner never hurts. DoorDash, Uber Eats, or Waitr all have gift cards you can send. Having dinner delivered when you’re grieving means not having to think about cooking or feeding the rest of the family.
Gift cards can feel impersonal for this sort of loss, but when my friend Tessa sent one for a meal delivery service, I knew she was thinking of making my life easier. And it meant the world to me.
When to Send a Miscarriage Care Package
I suggest sending a small gift as soon as you learn someone has had a miscarriage. The gift can be something as big as putting together a miscarriage care package or as simple as a card.
What matters is that the person you want to support feels loved and supported through a time during which most people feel very isolated.
How to deliver a Gift for Someone Who Miscarried
People often ask about delivery–is it okay to visit someone experiencing a loss?
The answer depends on personal preference, but I personally prefer to drop gifts without knocking or ringing the doorbell. Instead, I recommend leaving the gift and then sending a text message saying it’s there.
That way, they can invite you in if they want, or they can wait until you leave to respond to the message if they don’t feel like seeing people.
More Miscarriage Products and Gift Guides
Articles for Miscarriage Support
- What not to say to someone who had a miscarriage
- Why you can say no to attending a baby shower after miscarriage
- Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month
- International Wave of Light
Miscarriage Stories
- Surviving back-to-back miscarriages
- Beth’s ectopic pregnancy story
- Arden’s misoprostol experience
- Katy’s blighted ovum story
Articles About Rainbow Babies
- What is a rainbow baby + what it’s really like to have one
- Rainbow baby gifts
What gift for miscarriage have you found to be especially helpful?
Miscarriage Gifts for Mom FAQs
What is a miscarriage care package?
A miscarriage care package is a thoughtfully curated group of items arranged in a basket or gift bag that help support parents who have recently experienced a miscarriage.
Why should I sent a miscarriage care package?
Miscarriage care packages are a great way to show parents experiencing pregnancy loss that you care. These parents are at a vulnerable time, and letting them know you’re thinking of them is invaluable.
How do I know when to send a gift for miscarriage?
There is no bad time to send a gift for a miscarriage, but we suggest sending something immediately after you hear about the loss.
What should I say to someone who had a miscarriage?
There is nothing you can say to make someone’s experience less painful. The best thing you can do for someone experiencing miscarriage is to be present and allow them to grieve with you.
While there is no official flower for miscarriage, the forget-me-not is a common choice for its representation of love and grief. Other popular miscarriage flowers include the lotus flower, white lily, and yellow rose.
More Posts About Miscarriage
- Blighted ovum miscarriage: what to expect + symptoms
- Early signs of miscarriage at 6 weeks
- Arden’s misoprostol experience
- What to expect when you miscarry
- Finding a pregnancy loss support group
- After miscarriage, what to do
- Why you don’t have to go to a baby shower after miscarriage
- Types of miscarriage
Posts About Miscarriage Support
- What to say to someone who had a miscarriage
- What to do when a friend had a miscarriage
- How to support someone after miscarriage
More Miscarriage Gift Guides
- Miscarriage memorial gifts
- Gifts for parents who have lost a child
- Rainbow baby gifts (for parents having a baby after miscarriage, stillbirth, or child loss)
- Miscarriage Christmas ornaments
Katy Huie Harrison, PhD, is an author, mom, recurrent miscarriage survivor, & owner of Undefining Motherhood. She lives in Atlanta with her husband and 2 children (Jack & Branham). She believes our society puts too many expectations on women that make womanhood and motherhood restrictive. Her goal is to shift the paradigm about what it means to be a woman and mother, giving all women a greater sense of agency over their own lives. You can find Katy and her work featured in places like CNN’s Headline News, Romper, Scary Mommy, Love What Matters & more.
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