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What To Buy a New Mom for Herself, Not for the Baby

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Are you wondering what to buy a new mom for herself? The best gifts for a new mom are not for the baby and are things she wouldn’t think to ask for. As a relatively new mom who remembers the postpartum period far too vividly, I’ve compiled this ultimate list of the best gifts for a new mom.

Whether you’re looking for a shower gift, a present to drop by after baby is born, or just a way to help, you’ll find all the answers you need here. Are you a partner looking to buy a gift for your wife after giving birth? Check out our list of push presents!

Types of Gifts for a New Mom

There are so many different types of gifts for a new mom, so we’ll break them down into categories so you can easily find what fits your time frame and budget. 

  1. Self Care Gifts – items that will help a stressed and exhausted new mom feel a little more loved and pampered. Learn more here about self care for new moms!
  2. Postpartum Support – gifts to help mom’s physical recovery
  3. Baby Care Support – presents to make her life with a new baby easier
  4. Time Saving Gifts – products and services that will save the busy new mom time and energy
  5. Gifts that Cost You Time, Not Money – ways to support a new mom without having to shell out dollars you don’t have

Through these 5 types of gift suggestions, we’ll provide ideas for all types of situations, such as the following:

  • What is the best gift for a new mom?
  • What do you bring to a new mom?
  • How can I help my new mom from far away?
  • What do you get a new mom who has everything? (I promise, she still needs the items in section 5, “Gifts that Cost You Time, Not Money)
  • What can I get a new mom that’s cheap?

What to Buy a New Mom For Herself

Check out the list below of gifts for new moms that are for her, not for baby! 

1. Mama & Baby Bundle from Solly Baby

Solly Baby is hands down one of our favorite brands, and if you’re looking for a sweet and useful new mom care package that doesn’t focus too heavily on the gross aspects of postpartum, this is the perfect fit!

Mama + Baby Bundle - Heather Grey Robe

It’s packed with outrageously soft, luxurious products that will support mama through her new mom journey, from a robe soft enough to support even the most luxurious of mamas to the most comfortable wrap for babywearing a newborn.

2. Robe from Kyte Baby

Kyte Baby is famous for their extra soft baby pajamas, but most people don’t realize they make amazing options for moms, as well. Spoil your favorite new mama with a gorgeous, buttery soft robe.

woman wearing soft draping robe standing in front of a white background

We love that there’s an inner tie to hold everything in place, and the bamboo fabric with deep pockets is especially handy for carrying around all the random things baby needs at any given moment.

3. Kindred Bravely Postpartum Pajamas

Kindred Bravely makes our favorite maternity pajamas and postpartum pajamas. They’re soft, comfortable, don’t shrink in the dryer, and feel like you’re sleeping on air. Not to mention that they’re all made to allow for easy nursing access, if that’s a choice the mama you love it making.

blonde woman standing in black maternity and nursing nightgown that doubles as a daytime dress

You know your beloved mama’s style best, but we especially love this nightgown with pockets. We might toss on a pair of postpartum leggings and wear it all day–shh!

Self-Care Gifts

So often, while the new baby receives so many gifts and so much attention that the mom can’t use all her child has received, the new mom ends up feeling isolated and lonely. (Click here to read “The Excruciating Loneliness of Being a New Mother.”)

The following gifts are suggestions of what to buy a new mom for herself that will help her feel just a bit more loved and pampered. Ideally, they’ll also help her rest (ha!) and maintain some sanity.

More than anything, they’ll remind her of your thoughtful support, which helps tremendously during the lonely times. 

(1) Barefoot Dreams slippers

She’s going to spend a lot of time at home, and it’s nice to be able to walk around comfortably. If they’re fuzzy with memory foam, even better!

(2) Barefoot dreams blanket

When you spend a lot of time sitting with a baby, staying warm and cozy can make the days feel a lot easier.

Barefoot Dreams makes the SOFTEST, most AMAZING blankets I’ve ever touched–I feel like I’m being pampered just by having one on me.

(3) Essential oil diffuser

Diffusing essential oils is a great way to calm the mind and body, and doing it in a beautiful diffuser that adds to your home decor is an extra bonus.

Postpartum Support

We’ve talked a lot about the difficulty of the postpartum period, both in terms of physical and emotional recovery. To gain a better understanding of what the new mom is going through, click here to learn about postpartum recovery.

Help mom with her physical recovery with our very favorite gift box.

Bodily Care for Birth Box

We used to make our own postpartum care packages, but now that Bodily has this amazing gift box full of postpartum must haves, everyone’s lives are much easier.

a square image that show all the various postpartum supplies that come in the care for birth box by bodily

From mesh underwear to breast pods to a peri bottle and more, this gift has everything mama needs for her physical recovery. And best of all, it has a small, reader-friendly guidebook–perfect since most of us don’t actually know what we even need after birth!

Baby Care Support

While this list is specifically about what to buy a new mom for herself, not gifts for baby, there are certain gifts for a new mom that will make her life with baby easier. While we certainly want to feel like we’re treating mama, not baby, anything that makes her life easier does support her. 

So, we’ve pulled some of the top baby-care products that we’ve seen make life easier. These are great gifts, especially for showers, when you want to treat mom but know gifts are expected to be for babies. 

(1) Bambino Gift Card

Make sure the Bambino app is available in the mom you love’s area. If so, a Bambino gift card is great. Bambino connects you with recommended sitters in your area. 

I love 2 things about it: (1) Every sitter is recommended by neighbors! (2) There’s an option to filter for people who are for infants, which is HARD to find. This feature is what puts Bambino above other sitting apps, in my book. 

This is a great gift to buy for new mom. Tell her to use code “KATY2019” for $10 their first use of a sitter, including the value of the gift card you gave!

(2) Snoo Rental

When it first came on the market, a Snoo was a lavish item that only those who could shell out thousands of dollars for a bassinet could afford. But they saw the problem and fixed it–now, you an rent it, which is perfect since most families only need this smart sleeper for the first few months.

This amazing gadget keeps baby safely swaddled on his/her back, and it works to lull baby back to sleep. 

By connecting to an app on parents’ phones, it tells them what stage of sleep baby is in and alerts them when it can’t get baby back to sleep and they need to wake up to care for baby. 

Rent this product for the new parents in your life and be their biggest hero! Wondering what to buy a new mom for herself? This is the ULTIMATE new mom gift!

(3) Binxy Baby Grocery Cart Sling

One of the hardest parts of having a new baby is losing your freedom to easily to basic tasks, like pop into the grocery store. Sure, you can leave baby sleeping in the carseat, but then you have no space for your groceries. Enter Binxy Baby.

This brilliant hammock hooks directly to your grocery cart, so you can put baby’s carseat in it, or baby themselves. And it leaves half of the cart available for your actual groceries. Amazing.

(4) Kiinde Milk Gift Set

I know this looks like it’s for baby, but trust me, it’s for mom. Ideal for pumping moms, but also great for formula-feeding moms, this “breast milk storage set” provides storage bags and a bottle warmer that totally takes away the need to wash bottles. Hallelujah!

Give mom her time (and soft hands) back with this amazing gift. 

Gifts to Make New Mom’s Life Easier

When you have a new little one, it feels like there’s never enough time for anything! The to-do list is constantly getting longer, and it’s likely only in mom’s head because she never has free hands to write anything down. Maybe, if she’s really organized, it’s in a note on her phone. 

I remember how frustrated I got when people told me, “Just sleep when the baby sleeps.” 

First, I had postpartum anxiety, so I couldn’t sleep at all. Read more about how to deal with postpartum anxiety

Second, I just wanted to scream at them. “If I sleep when the baby sleeps, when the hell do you expect me to eat, pump, wash all his bottle and pump parts (God bless you, pumping moms), empty diaper pails, do the piles of spit-up-filled laundry?” And that’s just a tiny part of the list. 

What I needed more than anything was time. And that’s true of most new moms. These suggested gifts for a new mom will help her save time and, thus, frustration. Heck, maybe she’ll even get to sleep when the baby sleeps. Not likely, but maybe. 

(1) Amazon Prime Membership

Check to see if they already have one first! This membership will get free 2-day shipping (or less) from Amazon, which makes it much easier to keep up with supplies they need around the house!

(2) Audible Plus Membership

New moms spend lots of time watching TV and listening to podcasts or audiobooks while their little ones sleep in their arms. Books are hard to read with a babe in arms, but easy to listen to, and with Audible Plus, new moms get unlimited listens!

(3) Instacart Gift Card

Instacart is Amazing for new moms because it allows them to have groceries delivered right to their doors. It gained a lot of popularity during quarantine days, but for parents of newborns, it’s been a game changer since long before that.

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(4) Amazon Gift Card

The gift that works for everyone because they can buy anything they need and have it arrive right at their door! Need more wipes? Boom, mailed to your door. Decide to use a different bottle and don’t want to drag baby around town trying to find it? Order it from your couch!

Gifts that Cost You Time, Not Money

The price points on the gifts above vary, but sometimes, it’s just not in your budget to buy gifts for a new mom. And that’s okay!

Some of the best things you can do for a new mom are totally free. You heard me. FREE!

Here’s a list of the best things you can do for a new mom that cost little to nothing. 

(1) Show up and do something

When you go to visit (which you should, because remember, she’s likely lonely), don’t just hold the baby for half an hour and leave. DO SOMETHING!

If at all possible, show up with a meal. Visit at lunch time and offer to bring her lunch.

And while you’re there do something that you can imagine is on her to-do list. Don’t ask what you should do because her list is too long toeven know what to tell you. Just do it. Empty a diaper pail, take out the trash, do the dishes, do a load of laundry. 

(2) Give her a few minutes to herself

Give her advanced notice that you’re coming, ALWAYS, and hold the baby while she does something.

If you don’t tell her to do something, she won’t do it. Giving her options will help even more.

My friend Mary used to come over and say, “I’m here for an hour and a half. What do you need to do? I suggest pump, eat, shower, dry your hair, and put on lotion. But you can nap if you’d prefer.” I felt like I’d been given a spa day just by getting to eat and shower. Drying my hair and putting on lotion just seemed beyond insane. Thursdays with Mary were the greatest!

(3) Run one of her errands

Here’s the thing: she will not ask for this, and she likely won’t even know what errand she needs you to run. Figure it out anyway.

When my friend Emily asked what errands she could run for me, I had no idea what to say. So she rephrased her question and asked where I was planning to ask Husband to go that day. AH HA! Now that was easy. Target and Whole Foods. So that’s where she went.

(4) Cook her a meal

You can prepare it ahead of time, or show up and cook it at her house to give her company. If you cook at her house, just make sure you clean up EVERY SINGLE BIT OF YOUR MESS!

Emily made me my favorite muffins, and it was Heaven,  because I could eat those one-handed even when no one was around and I was overwhelmed.

*Note: They’re probably already getting a lot of lasagna. Everyone makes lasagna because it freezes well. I was immensely grateful for each lasagna I received, and I ate every bite, but when my friend Julia showed up with a fresh salad and a poppyseed chicken casserole, I was near tears because I was so excited for something different.

(5) Bring her something reheatable (or that she can eat cold) for breakfast

Mornings with a new baby are SO hard. Mom is exhausted from a long night, hasn’t likely had caffeine yet, and has a baby who needs EVERYTHING.

Muffins were my go-to–filled with oats and healthy ingredients to give me a smidge of nutrition, but still not something I could call healthy. But when someone showed up with individual (made in muffin-tins) quiches, it was amazing. It was like a REAL breakfast. I could heat it up and have eggs and bacon and sausage. What was even happening?

(6) Text to check in

I’m serious. This is a gift, and it’s something you can do from far away. I just needed human contact, and having people check in was lifesaving. I appreciated calls, but I couldn’t usually make them work–I wasn’t that adept at using my 2 hands for multiple things. So texts were my lifeline.

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